What is Journaling 101? A blog for journalers, writers, and people who want to get in touch with the most fascinating person in the world – themselves!
I have been journaling for over 45 years now and since the day I began, I have been intrigued by the fact that I never run out of things to write about! I was sure that if this habit was so powerful for me, everyone else would want to journal too. So, I invited some friends into my living room and we began writing and sharing. Then I left my living room and began to share my love of journaling with larger audiences and groups. Many, many times people have come up to me and I can feel the excitement washing over them as they begin to journal and learn more about themselves and the world around them. And I love to be part of that feeling!
One of the biggest hurdles some people face as they begin journaling is that they start off like a rocket and then often forget to put journaling on their schedule. Journaling is not necessarily keeping a “diary” but it is also not writing chapter and verse either. I know some journalers who write intermittently and others who faithfully write daily. There is no “right” way. There is only your way.
One reader wrote to me after reading my book Journaling For Joy, that the best part of reading the book and her start in journaling was that “I had introduced her to herself.”
What a wonderful adventure! Learn who you are by letting yourself tell you! So grab your pen and journal and join with me to be true to who you are!
Read the questions, or tips, for each month and then let your thoughts flow and write to capture whatever comes into your mind! Sound fun? It is!
In joy, Joyce
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To begin…Ask Yourself:
What do I think/feel, right now about keeping a journal and what would I like journaling to do for me?
Why do I want to keep a journal?
What do I want my journaling habits to be?
What kind of journal or computer program do I want to use, and why?
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After you have answered the first questions you might like to continue by keeping A Daily Log
One of the techniques that I practiced when I first started to journal was to keep a daily log.
Today I know that this technique is one of the reasons I quickly realized the value of paying serious attention to my life. By recording my life in my daily log, I found that I was the person in charge of what I really wanted in my life. I was becoming much more aware of “being the main character” in my life. (Now this may sound strange to some of you but the truth is I was allowing my life to…just happen most of the time. And I was really excited to reflect at the end of each day and write in my daily log what did or didn’t happen. I could and would be more awake and aware. It was time for me to live in choice!)
Keeping a daily log is very much like the “Dear Diary” journaling that most of us have done in our journals and diaries throughout our lives. Are you saying, “I know I already do this, or I do write every day about my day, or…Well, I’m suggesting…let’s all do this for several weeks and notice if anything shifts or changes because of committing to the “daily-ness” of practicing a habit.
So…every day during this month of April sit down daily, open your journal, write the date, a record your day. Remember this is your log so you can write one word, one line, or pages and pages. Then as always, I suggest to, reread and give yourself some “feedback” or a new journaling assignment you want to do.
If this is a new practice for you here are a few tips: Close your eyes and visualize the day. Ask yourself some questions to spark your memory. Questions like: If I titled my day, today, how would I title it? What did I do first this morning? Was I looking forward to my day? Who were the people in my life today? How did I feel in the late afternoon? What was my evening like? What was the best part of my day, why? What would I have liked to change? Is today a day I’d like to repeat? Why, or why not? What do I want to remember from living my life today?
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During this month of May let’s talk about keeping other logs to keep. Here’s a section* from Chapter 2 in Journaling For Joy that will get you started :
*KEEPING A LOG FOR EVERY OCCASION
How can I know myself?” people often ask when they begin on their self-discovery process. They may be acute observers of others, but they do not direct their attention onto observing themselves. When I taught young children, I would tell them jokingly, “Your ticket to come in tomorrow will be to know what color your mom’s eyes are. All who know their telephone numbers will get their names added to the I Know list.” I would encourage them to become aware of the world around them. And, of course, they would laugh and come to school knowing more than they knew the day before-also more lively and more involved in their life.
One of the simplest ways to observe yourself is by keeping a log, or simple list recording the details you’re interested in knowing more about. When you choose to be more aware, follow through with a concrete action: set the facts and figures down in black and white before you. What are you dissatisfied with? What do you feel unfulfilled about? What area would you like to assume more control over? What feeling or experience do you want to increase in your life? Make a log, and begin recording the raw data you will have to work with.
Author George F. Simons in his book KEEPING YOUR PERSONAL JOURNAL recommends asking, “If I could take a souvenir or memento from today, what would it be?” and “Is there something I would like to say to each person who entered my day in some form?” Wonderful learning can come from recording the activities and thoughts and events of one single day:
- Want to become more positive? Log your negative thoughts and words for a day. Then write what your learning is from what you have observed.
- Log your accomplishments for a week, and then write a Feedback Statement.
- Keep a log of your frustrations during a day at the office or at home. Then write what you can learn from what you have written.
- Want to learn to communicate more effectively? Keep a log of your communications for a day, and then write yourself a Feedback Statement.
- What’s bugging you? Keep a log for a day, and then write your conclusions and recommendations to yourself.
- Your body is acting up again? Keep a record of your symptoms for a day or a week, noting alongside each what else was going on in your life at that time. At the end, write what learning is available from this record. Then keep another log: of times your body feels wonderful!
- Keep a record of your loving encounters for a day or two: what message comes through your writing?
- Want to learn to be more assertive? Keep a log of your interactions for a day. Ask yourself, “Did I say what I felt, wanted, needed? Or did I say, `What’s the use?’ or ‘Who cares.” What difference does it make?‘ “
- Low self-esteem? Keep a log for a day of thoughts and interactions that raised and lowered your self-esteem. What is the learning there?
- Is self-awareness an issue for you? Keep a log for a day of your state of energy, moment to moment. Write a Feedback Statement about what your observations say to you.
- Keep a log of your feelings for a day. What do you conclude? Write about your learning. If there is a feeling you want to increase in your life, keep a log of the times you experience this feeling. Is your life too bland? Keep a log of times you experience passion. Summarize your conclusions.
In a brainstorming session, I once encouraged participants to list every kind of log they had ever used or would like to use. The list covered an entire wall. You could think of an infinite number of ideas for logging. If you keep a log of what you did in your garden this year and how it turned out, you could improve your garden next year. If you have a weight problem and cannot remember what you have eaten today, you might want to start a food log. If you want to increase your exercise, how about an exercise log?—give yourself gold stars! If you want to recapture the romance in your relationship, begin a romance log.
If you want to find out what’s going on in your life that causes you so much conflict, keep a conflict log. Were you criticized? Did someone take something you wanted? Were you unable to do what you wanted? Were you unappreciated? List these incidents, what the issue was, who was involved, and what you wanted. When conflicts persist, they can turn into complaining, gossip, and symptoms of physical illness. Your conflict log will lead you to root out the causes of conflict. When you keep this log, action will follow to resolve the problem.
Do you have habits you would like to change? Catch yourself substituting new behaviors, and keep a log of what you did. Keep a phone log, to find out how much time you spend on the phone, and with whom. Keep a log of addictive behaviors, and the thoughts and feelings that preceded them each time. Note and write down any judgmental and critical remarks, and the effects they produced. Log your mistakes and what you learned from them. And how about a log of “Erase Its”—what you would like to be able to erase from the day (that second brownie, those harsh words with a loved one, the job left undone). Then try logging your wins, your successes, your accomplishments.
As you look over a log, you will begin to notice patterns and see relationships between thoughts, feelings, and actions. By becoming the observer, you then become the planner, the designer, the critiquer, and the organizer. Logging captures the details that point to a powerful realization: Aha! I’m in charge of my life! I create my own mental environment. Logging is a great self-empowerment tool.
The technique tips for June are all from Chapter 3 in Journaling For Joy, “Snapshots of Your Life…An Album of Memories”
I love talking with people who say, I want to write my life story. Then the next sentence is often, Where should I start? If you are one of those who want, and are ready, to recapture your life experiences on paper, let’s begin!
This first week start off by making a list, or use what I call making a cluster design, of memories you can easily recall. You may find yourself thinking of a time in your childhood… that was a joyful memory, or something that you would rather not remember, or meeting a person that has impacted you, and so much more! This first writing is going to help you write that Life Story you say you want to write.
Did you remember lots of memories last week? This week take time to add to those lists! Dig out some of your old photos and start going through them, When one really “speaks” to you, think of a title for that life experience and add to this growing collection…of memories you want to put into words!
My guess is that ideas, past experiences and events are… wanting to be written down. If this is true, then another easy way to expand these memories is to make a list of the characters in your stories. Then, next week we’ll build on this step!
What did you discover last week by making your list about the different people in your life? This week review your list and ask yourself: Do I want to include some of these people in my life stories? Then set aside time to begin capturing these memories!
You have really just begun even if you followed all this month’s suggestions. So, my invitation to you is continue to write your stories! As you write please remember “Life is an adventure. By opening up the album of stored memories, you allow yourself to re-create, rethink, and recapture the valuable thoughts and precious feeling you may have missed along the way”
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Imagine a world where journaling is popular and is a tool used to achieve inner peace, self-discovery and to encourage embracing peace on Earth! If you would like a journaling tip to help you figure out what is next, have a question you’d like to ask me, share a journaling experience/entry, please send me a message on my website http://joycechapman.com/contact/ I will reply right away.
Loved what Mary sent to me so sharing it here.
THE JOURNAL KEEPER • Mary Worthington • March 2020
USE ALL YOUR EXPERIENCE
Having kept a daily journal for 45 years, I have learned that the magic of journaling is to use all of
my life experiences to learn, change and grow.
Having watched me weather the storms of life with my
paper and pen in hand, one of my most important mentors once remarked, “Your Journals are Grace!” As
I look under my bed, in my closet and tucked in between my favorite books, I find journal, after journal,
after journal. And all I can say is Grace….Grace….Grace.
GETTING INTO MY COMFORT ZONE
All my life I have heard the words, you need to get out of your comfort zone to grow. So I did!
Global Travels, Advanced Education, and unexpected illnesses, mine and others often threw me “out of
my comfort zone”. Now, in these challenging times of quarantine, I am faced with a seemingly bigger
challenge, that of GETTING INTO MY COMFORT ZONE. It is day three of full quarantine in our
apartment, and I am focusing on just what do those words mean? For me, it is savoring the silence with
pen and paper, and no definite plans other than remembering to order our meals.
HOSPITAL SHIP “COMFORT”
As I watched the beautiful hospital ship sale into New York Harbor yesterday, I flashed back to the
hospital ship my surgeon father was on during the four years of World War II. It was the Solace, a name
akin to Comfort and Mercy. The Solace was not the glorious pristine white with bright red cross, it was
battleship grey. It’s ominous presence spelled sadness, suffering, death. Sadly, the Comfort in all its
beauty speaks the same solemn words of darkness.
QUARANTINE IN THE UPPER ROOM
Perhaps we have all had experiences in our lives when we had to be in quarantine for periods of
time. My most memorable experience came when I was in France at age 20. I was part of the Smith
College Junior Year in France, and we were in Aix-en-Provence for two months of introduction to the
French way of life. In those early weeks, my roommate was diagnosed with Typhoid Fever and sent off to
a nearby nursing home. I stayed behind and was led to a very small room where I was to remain for my 3
week stay. Far from home, I found peace in a small white bible I had brought from home. Most
importantly, I was nurtured by nature as I looked out over the gardens of the Cezanne Villa.
PRISON CORRESPONDENCE
In the early 2000, I was part of a group that corresponded with Prison Inmates. It was a
fascinating experience as I read their tales of prison life, knowing that it was not my place to offer any
platitudes or solutions. It was a time for me to sink deep and speak from my heart, offering whatever
nuggets of inspiration I could offer. I have those letters and I am rereading them now. I am nurtured
daily by my own words as I find the “pearls of wisdom” that I offered to them while they were incarcerated.
‘KEEP YOUR EYES ON THE LIGHT • YOU’LL BE GLAD!’
Over a year ago, my therapist of 17 years past away after a futile battle with Alzheimers Disease.
His death came suddenly, and It was hard to end this relationship that had been so helpful and
meaningful. Much to my surprise, it was not over. A few months ago, we had a speaker here at the
Mirabella, a woman who facilitates “The Gathering” , a special day care program for people struggling
with Alzheimers. During the video of a day at “The Gathering”, I thought I saw my friend, but there was no
name and his face and words had already changed. Minutes later, he appeared again playing his flute,
as his name flashed across the screen. Then his words poured forth as if for me….and you.
“KEEP SHINING YOUR LIGHT! YOU’LL BE GLAD!
I like that in my journal, I am able to express how I truly feel about something. It is not always appropriate to speak your mind with co workers or even family members. It is the way it is nowaday with all the “appropriate” comments and behaviors, but journaling is a great outlet to set our mind at peace and move on 🙂
Hi Roselyne.
I just now reread your post and wanted to say …I loved reading your comment! I also LOVE journaling, as you can likely guess.
Here’s an excerpt* from my Journaling for Joy book that you might like to read to spark your interest and facilitate you on your inner journey.
*Why Journal? To find the missing pieces; say the unsaid; understand your life process; reach into the hidden recesses of your self; achieve clarity, direction, and certainty in your life; move forward out of chaos and confusion into focus and balance. Keeping a journal will reveal the patterns of thoughts, feelings, and behaviors in your professional and personal life. Why journal? To do what makes your heart sing!
Some of the many important results you can achieve through journaling:
* To know who you are.
* To turn problems into opportunities, gifts.
* To learn to trust yourself as your own counselor.
* To release feelings, turmoil, stress.
* To access information from your subconscious mind.
* To find answers to what seems to be unanswerable.
* To capture the teachings of your past.
* To record experiences and thoughts you want to keep and remember.
* To awaken the writer’s voice within you.
* To communicate with others when talking is difficult or impossible.
* To integrate what you are learning from a class, lecture, or life situation.
* To know yourself as a spiritual being.
* To heal the past.
* To live from being awake and aware of the present.
* To create the future by conscious choice.
* To understand the connection between thought and health.
* To understand your partners in life.
* To discover your life purpose.
* To develop a step-by-step plan to reach your goals and dreams.
* TO CAPTURE JOY!
Just for fun, I thought I’d post a handout that I often give out at talks.
WHAT HAS JOURNALING HAS DONE FOR ME?
I began listening to myself.
I started to be in dialogue with everyone and everything in my life.
I took responsibility for my experiences.
I stopped giving advice.
I stopped having headaches and sore throats.
I wrote about painful memories, took the learning from them, embraced them and let them go.
I wrote letters to friends and family who had died and experienced healing and/or completion and closure.
I stopped trying to control and began to choose.
I became proactive rather than reactive.
I wrote about my fears, my feelings and stopped trying to be something or someone I’m not.
I found I had a “writer’s voice.”
I felt enriched by my own ideas and thoughts.
I asked myself questions and found I had my own answers.
Through journaling my life purpose was given to me.
I’ve experienced automatic writing and excitedly expanded my thinking.
I’ve talked with mentors who have become my friends – my advisors.
I examined my beliefs and kept those that serve me and “noticed.”
I integrated information quickly from classes, lectures and books.
I realized that what I considered weaknesses are truly my strengths.
I’ve identified what is important to me and live accordingly.
I have realized inner peace.
I now live in the CREATIVE PROCESS rather than problem-solving.
I am more joyful than I imagined was possible. I am living in the JOY.